Turn up the heat with Temperature Play

Temperature play is an exciting form of sensory play that uses hot and cold sensations to heighten arousal and add new dimensions to physical intimacy. It’s a safe, accessible way to bring novelty into your intimate life, relying on easily adjustable temperatures to create thrilling contrasts on the skin. Temperature play doesn’t require any special equipment, just a few household items like ice cubes or warm towels. For those interested in exploring further, there are also tools specifically designed for temperature play, like warming oils or metal toys that retain heat and cold.

If you’re curious about exploring temperature play with a partner (or solo!), here’s a guide to getting started.

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HOW TO GET STARTED WITH TEMPERATURE PLAY

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Choose your temperature tool

• Ice cubes: Ice is a classic choice for temperature play, providing an instant, intense chill that contrasts beautifully with body warmth. Gently gliding an ice cube over erogenous zones (think neck, inner thighs, or chest) can be exhilarating. Place the ice in a washcloth or bag for a gentler chill, and remember to keep it moving to avoid numbing any one area.
• Warm towels or water: For a gentle introduction to heat, try using a warm (not hot) towel or cloth. Drape it over an area of the body to relax the muscles and increase sensitivity. You can also use warm water to gently heat specific body parts, like feet or hands, creating a cozy, intimate sensation.
• Temperature-resistant toys: Metal or glass toys can be safely warmed or chilled before use. Place them in warm water or the fridge (never the freezer!) for a few minutes to bring them to a comfortable temperature. Glass and metal are ideal for temperature play because they retain temperatures well, allowing for a prolonged experience.

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Establish safety precautions

Temperature play should feel enjoyable, not painful, so keeping sensations moderate and safe is key.

• Test the temperature first: Before introducing hot or cold items to sensitive areas, try them on less sensitive spots (like the forearm) to check for comfort.
• Avoid extreme heat or cold: Never use boiling water, open flames, or items directly from the freezer. These extremes can cause burns or frostbite, which is not the goal! Keep things gentle and test temperatures before use.
• Communicate and check in: As with any form of sensory play, communication is essential. Make sure both you and your partner are comfortable and consenting, and check in regularly to ensure the experience stays enjoyable.

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MORE TIPS FOR EXPLORING TEMPERATURE PLAY

• Start slow: Temperature play is best when it builds gradually. Start with mild warmth or coolness, and work up to slightly more intense sensations as you both become comfortable.
• Alternate between temperatures: Using both hot and cold can heighten sensations even further. Try switching from a warm towel to a cold metal spoon or ice cube to create a stimulating contrast that excites the senses.
• Combine with massage: For added relaxation, combine temperature play with massage. Using warming or cooling massage oils can feel amazing, especially when combined with the natural warmth of skin-to-skin contact. Make sure to use oils designed for intimate areas if you’re going that route.
• Explore erogenous zones: Gently gliding warm or cool objects over areas like the neck, wrists, lower back, and thighs can intensify arousal and create a heightened sense of awareness and connection.